A child who discovers the power of language also notices that pronounced words evoke various reactions. He knows what to expect when he comes with a smile and says "I love you, mom" or proudly shows a painted drawing. As a very attentive observer, he also notes that there are words that fall on other occasions: nervousness, stress, or as a way to discharge emotions. The child identifies the words that appear they disappear quickly and equally quickly, they have a strong and strong overtones. Over time, this knowledge is tested in practice.
Why does the child swear?
It is obvious that we are not always able to give 100% attention to a child. It is no wonder that the toddler checks the possibilities of focusing his gaze and perfection in these efforts.
It is just saying bad words way of attracting attention. The more effective this method is, the more often your toddler will reach for it. He is aware that despite the initial dissatisfaction, the goal is achieved, and that is what he is talking about.
The second reason for saying bad words is willingness check the parent's or guardian's reaction. When a toddler notices that what he is doing evokes strong emotions, he quickly remembers a valuable lesson. He experiments and checks adult behavior, the more interesting he encounters, the more often he uses "secret weapon." Not only among relatives, but also a wider one: at the least expected moment at a gala dinner, a walk, in a cinema, theater, church.
Swearing often is treated like fun. A toddler who notices that saying bad words, arouses general joy it will be fulfilled without ceasing, even if in time laughter turns into menacing glances.
Swearing is also the result of observation. A child who he learns by imitating, this way he checks the acquired knowledge in practice. It lets you get closer to the world of adults. Almost in the same way as independence gained while walking, running or eating alone, saying bad words gives him a sense of control over the situation.
How do you react to bad words?
Our most important is first reaction. The child he has two or three years speaks curses without knowing their meaning. Therefore, instead of threatening your finger, leaning over and explaining that you can't laugh so badly or worse, the best way is ignoring the situation, i.e. letting go of what the child said. Paying too much attention to new words (regardless of whether the response is positive or negative) will cause the dictionary to permanently expand with spoken phrases.
It is different when the child already has four to five years, in this situation, often ignoring remains ineffective and belongs with talk to the child about the words spokenwhy they shouldn't be told. It's worth starting by checking if your child knows what the words mean. If not, explain it and say that speaking to them is unpleasant for parents. In addition, with recurring incidents, it's good to ask what the child meant, what they wanted to say, making sense of the uselessness of swearing.
Let's resort to punishments as a last resort. Incorrectly used, they can have a different effect than intended.
Of course the basis is good example. If we swear ourselves, it will be difficult to unlearn the child's ugly words.
And you, what are your experiences?